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Sometimes I get mired down in routine day in and day out, and after some time goes by I wonder, “Man, how did I get here?” I think it’s important to set aside time each morning – or at least once a week – to ask yourself useful questions. If you take time to do some self-reflection regularly, you have much more control over your life and the direction you’re heading – and you’re doing it all consciously. If you start this new habit (or if you’re already doing it), make sure you’re asking useful questions. A few examples of useless questions include: Why am I so unlucky? Why am I so fat? Why did Joe do that? Not all “Why” questions are bad, but a lot of them are. Don’t make judgments (e.g., “Why am I so fat?). A better question is, “What is one thing I can do…

What you say to yourself has everything to do with how you experience people or events, how you perform, and how you feel. We all know intuitively that positive self talk is good for us and negative self talk is bad, but what does science say about the way you speak to yourself? Here are ways you can improve your life by changing your inner dialogue. Refer to Yourself in the Third Person Psychologist Ethan Kross from the University of Michigan performed a series of experiments to determine the effect of a person’s self talk on their behavior.  One of the discoveries he made is that when you use your name when talking to yourself (instead of saying “I”), you: Increase your chances of successfully completing any number of activities Minimize ruminating on an event after it’s over Decrease anxiety and depression Gain perspective Increase focus Better plan for the future…